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Notes from the therapy room
I’m Sallyanne—a counsellor, trauma therapist, and someone who’s always learning.
I read widely, think deeply, and ask a lot of questions—about healing, relationships, identity, systems, and the many layers of being human.
This blog is a space for reflection, not perfection.
Sometimes I write about therapy. Sometimes I write about what I’m noticing—in myself, in my work, or in the world.
If you’re curious too, you’re in good company.
Estranged from Adult Child: How to Grow Through This Without Blame
Being estranged from an adult child is a particular kind of grief – one that is rarely spoken about honestly. This post is for parents who are ready to look at what happened with genuine honesty, and to grow through it regardless of the outcome.
Family Estrangement Guilt: Why It Is There and How to Work With It
Family estrangement guilt is almost universal – and rarely talked about honestly. This post names what it actually is, where it comes from, and how to work with it rather than being controlled by it.
Finding Yourself Outside Family: Who Are You Beyond the Role You Were Given?
Finding yourself outside family narratives is one of the most disorienting and most important things a woman can do. This post explores what it involves, why it is so hard, and what becomes possible on the other side of it.
Toxic Family Dynamics: Recognising the Patterns That Have Shaped You
Toxic family dynamics are often hard to name – especially when nothing obviously terrible happened. This post explains what they are, how they show up, and why recognising them is the beginning of something genuinely different.
Estrangement from Parents: The Specific Grief of This Kind of Distance
Estrangement from parents carries a particular grief – the loss of people who are still alive, of a relationship that was supposed to be one thing and was another. This post names what that grief actually involves and what a path forward can look like.
Family Estrangement: When Distance Becomes Necessary and What Comes Next
Family estrangement is rarely a single decision. It is a process – of recognising patterns, creating space, and finding out who you are outside the family narrative. This guide holds the full spectrum without telling you what to do.
Healing from Trauma: What It Actually Looks Like for Women
Healing from trauma is possible – but it rarely looks the way people expect. This post is an honest account of what the process involves, what gets in the way, and what becomes available on the other side.
Trauma Responses: Why You React the Way You Do
Trauma responses are not overreactions or character flaws. They are intelligent adaptations that made complete sense once – and understanding them is the beginning of something genuinely different.
Small T Trauma: The Wounds That Are Hard to Name
Small t trauma refers to the experiences that shaped you without being dramatic enough to name. For many women it is the most significant thing they have never been able to talk about.
What Is Complex Trauma? A Guide for Women Who Are Still Figuring It Out
What is complex trauma, and could it explain the anxiety, relational patterns, and chronic exhaustion you have been living with? This guide answers the question honestly, starting with experience rather than diagnosis.
Complex Trauma in Women: What It Is and Why It Is Hard to Name
Complex trauma develops through repeated difficult experiences rather than a single event. This guide explains what it is, how it shows up in women’s lives, and what healing actually involves.
Online Therapy for Anxiety: When Managing Is Not Enough
Online therapy for anxiety that goes beneath coping strategies to address what is actually driving the pattern. For women whose anxiety has not fully shifted despite good self-awareness and previous support.
Therapy for High Functioning Women: When Capable Is Not the Same as Well
Therapy for high functioning women requires a different approach – one that goes beneath the capable surface to address what is actually driving the exhaustion, anxiety, and quiet disconnection underneath.
Trauma Therapist for Women: What to Look for and What to Expect
Finding the right trauma therapist for women requires more than a directory search. This post covers what specialist trauma training looks like, what questions to ask, and what good trauma therapy actually involves.
Depth Psychotherapy for Women: What It Is and Whether It Is Right for You
Depth psychotherapy goes beneath symptoms and coping strategies to address the patterns actually driving them. This post explains what it involves, who it suits, and what to expect.
Online Psychotherapy for Women in Australia: What to Look For and What to Expect
Online psychotherapy for women in Australia makes specialist, depth-oriented therapy accessible regardless of where you live. This guide covers what to look for, what good therapy involves, and the questions worth asking before you commit.
Brainspotting vs EMDR: How to Choose the Right Trauma Therapy
Brainspotting vs EMDR is a question I am asked regularly, and it deserves a careful answer. Both are body-based trauma therapies with supporting...
Brainspotting for Trauma: Why Some Healing Happens Below Language
Brainspotting for trauma is built on a simple but significant observation: some experiences are stored in the body at a level that language cannot...
Brainspotting for Anxiety: When the Activation Lives in the Body
Brainspotting for anxiety is not another technique for managing anxious thoughts. It is not a breathing protocol or a cognitive reframe. It works at...
Brainspotting Therapy Australia: What It Is and How It Is Used
Brainspotting therapy in Australia is still relatively unknown - which is surprising given how effective it is, and how many women it is quietly...
What Is Brainspotting? A Guide for Women Considering Trauma Therapy
What is Brainspotting? It is one of the most common questions I hear from women who have been referred to me, or who have found their way here...
IFS Therapy for Women Who Always Feel Responsible for Everything
There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes not from what you are doing, but from the constant sense that everything depends on you. That if...
IFS Therapy for Emotional Burnout: Why You Keep Running on Empty
IFS therapy for burnout starts with a question that most burnout recovery advice never asks: why does a woman who knows she is exhausted keep going...
When Self-Awareness Is Not Enough: How IFS Therapy Goes Deeper
You know why you do what you do. You have read the books, maybe seen a therapist, done the journalling. You can trace the patterns back to where...
How IFS Therapy Helps High-Functioning Anxiety
IFS therapy for anxiety is not about learning to manage anxious thoughts more effectively. It is not about breathing techniques or reframing or...
What an IFS Therapy Session Actually Feels Like
One of the most common things I hear from women before their first IFS therapy session is some version of: I am not sure what to expect. They have...
IFS Therapy in Australia: A Guide for Women Who Are Ready to Go Deeper
If you have been searching for IFS therapy in Australia, this guide is for you. You have probably spent years learning how to handle yourself. How...
Therapy for Women in Australia: Finding Support That Truly Fits
If you’re searching for therapy for women in Australia, something inside you likely feels tired. Not dramatic. Not catastrophic. Just worn down. You...
Why Do I Feel Flat Even Though Nothing Is Wrong?
If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why do I feel flat even though nothing is wrong?”, you’re not alone. Many high-functioning women experience this...
Why Do I Cry So Easily Lately? 7 Emotional Reasons Women Overlook
If you’ve been wondering, why do I cry so easily lately?, you’re not alone. You tear up during conversations. You cry at small frustrations. You...
Why Am I So Irritable All the Time? 7 Hidden Reasons for Women
Why Am I So Irritable All the Time? Many women search for “why am I so irritable all the time?” when they feel constantly on edge but cannot...
Why Am I Snapping at Everyone? 7 Hidden Signs of Emotional Burnout in Women
Why am I snapping at everyone lately? If you find yourself reacting sharply to your partner, your children, colleagues or even strangers, it may not...
Why Is My Anxiety Worse at Night? What It Really Means
If you find yourself lying in bed asking, “Why is my anxiety worse at night?” you are not alone. During the day you cope. You manage. You push...
Why Do I Wake Up Anxious at 3am? What Your Body Is Telling You
Why do I wake up anxious at 3am? You fall asleep tired. You’ve done everything you needed to do. Nothing dramatic is happening in your life. And...
Exhausted but Can’t Relax? 7 Real Reasons Why
If you are exhausted but can’t relax, you are not imagining it. You might fall into bed feeling drained. You might cancel plans because you have no...
Signs of Emotional Burnout in Women: 9 Subtle Clues You Might Be Missing
The signs of emotional burnout in women are rarely dramatic. You may still be functioning. Still showing up. Still holding everything together. From...
Why Do I Feel Resentful in My Relationship? 7 Honest Reasons
If you keep thinking, why do I feel resentful in my relationship?, you are not alone - and the answer is often more complex than a single argument...
Why Am I Always the Responsible One?
Why am I always the responsible one? You may not say it out loud. But you feel it. You are the one who: Remembers. Organises. Anticipates. Smooths...
How to Stop Over-Functioning in Relationships — and Why It’s So Hard
Over-functioning in relationships often looks responsible, capable, and generous from the outside. You are the one who remembers. The one who...
Relational Burnout in Women: When You Feel Done
Relational burnout in women does not usually explode. It fades. You still care. You still show up. You still function. But something inside feels...
Is Emotional Labour Causing My Anxiety?
You might describe yourself as anxious. Tense. On edge. Unable to switch off. But what if the anxiety isn’t random? What if it’s connected to how...
Emotional Labour in Relationships: When One Person Carries the Weight
Emotional labour in relationships often goes unnoticed. There is no formal role. No visible checklist. Yet one person may quietly become responsible...
Why Am I So Tired Emotionally? When Nothing Is “Wrong” but You Feel Drained
If you’ve found yourself searching why am I so tired emotionally, you’re probably not talking about physical sleep. You may be functioning well....
What Is the Invisible Mental Load? Why It Feels So Heavy for Women
The invisible mental load is the quiet, constant work of remembering, anticipating, tracking, and planning that keeps daily life functioning. It is...
High-Functioning Anxiety in Women: Why You’re Successful but Always On Edge
You look capable. You manage a lot. People rely on you. On paper, your life works. And yet inside there is a steady current of anxiety that never...
Emotional Labour and the Exhausted Woman: Why Holding Everything Together Is Draining You
You look capable. You are capable. You manage work. You manage conversations. You manage emotions. You manage the atmosphere in a room before anyone...
Why Do I Feel Anxious When Nothing Is Wrong? Hidden High-Functioning Anxiety Explained
Why do I feel anxious when nothing is wrong? It's a question many capable, thoughtful women ask themselves. If you’ve been wondering, “Why do I feel...
What Kind of Therapist Should I See for Anxiety in Australia?
What kind of therapist should I see for anxiety in Australia? If you’re feeling anxious and unsure where to start, you’re not alone. The mental...
Is Online Therapy Effective for Anxiety?
If you’re considering therapy for anxiety, it makes sense to wonder whether online therapy for anxiety will actually help. For many people, online...
Self-Esteem in Women: Flawed and Still Worthy
There’s a quiet revolution happening in how we think about self-esteem. It’s not about becoming better. It’s not about fixing yourself or achieving enough to finally deserve respect. It’s about seeing yourself clearly, flaws and all, and still choosing to hold yourself in high regard.
Why Am I Successful but Still Anxious? Understanding High-Functioning Anxiety
Why Am I Successful but Still Anxious? On paper, everything looks fine. You are competent. You are trusted. You deliver. And yet, underneath that...
Inner Work for Women: Therapy Beyond Fixing and Performing
Not all struggles look like crisis. This blog is for women who want more than coping — who are ready for inner work that’s real, deep, and grounded in everyday life.
Invisible Mental Load for Women: Why You Feel Responsible for Everything
Invisible labour is real — and heavy. This post explores the emotional and mental load many women carry daily, and why naming it is the first step to real change.
Why Do I Still Feel Stuck (Even After Doing the Work)?
Even high-functioning women can feel anxious, flat, or disconnected. This post explores what it means to struggle silently – and how therapy can help.
Therapy for Women: Emotional Labour, Burnout and Being Unseen
Why I focus on women: the invisible load, quiet discontent, and inner strength many carry alone — and how therapy can help you feel seen, steady, and supported.