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Therapy for High Functioning Women: When Capable Is Not the Same as Well

Therapy for High Functioning Women: When Capable Is Not the Same as Well

by | Feb 22, 2026 | Inner Work, Women's Lives, Working with Me

Therapy for high functioning women starts with a recognition that most standard approaches do not capture: that capability and wellbeing are not the same thing, and that the women who appear most together are often the ones carrying the most.

If you are reading this, you probably know exactly what I mean. You manage a great deal – professionally, relationally, domestically. You are reliable, accomplished, and considered capable by everyone who knows you. And privately, you are exhausted in a way that rest does not fix, anxious in a way that success does not resolve, and quietly disconnected from yourself in a way that is difficult to name.

This post is for you. It explains why the standard therapy model often falls short for high functioning women, what therapy designed for this presentation actually looks like, and what becomes possible when the right kind of support is found.

Why Standard Therapy Often Falls Short for High Functioning Women

Standard therapy models – particularly brief, structured, symptom-focused approaches – were largely developed for and tested on presentations that are clearly distressing on the outside. They tend to work well when the problem is visible, when the person presents as struggling, and when the goal is symptom reduction over a defined period.

High functioning women often do not present that way. They come to therapy having already read the books, understood the patterns, and tried the strategies. They do not need psychoeducation about what anxiety is or why burnout happens. They need something that works at the level where the problem actually lives – beneath the insight, beneath the understanding, in the body and the deeper layers of the psyche that cognition alone cannot reach.

There is also a specific challenge with how high functioning women relate to therapy itself. Many find it genuinely difficult to be the one who needs support. The competence that serves them so well everywhere else can become a barrier in the therapy room – an unconscious drive to perform wellness, to have the right answers, to not be too much. Good therapy for high functioning women holds space for all of that and works with it rather than around it.

What Is Actually Driving the Pattern

High functioning as a pattern almost always has roots. It rarely develops in a vacuum. The women I work with typically learned early that being capable, reliable, and needed was how they earned safety, connection, or worth. That achieving more would protect against something – failure, rejection, the collapse of things they were holding together.

Those early adaptations were intelligent. They worked. The problem is that they do not update automatically when circumstances change. The woman who learned as a child that her value depended on her usefulness is still running that programme as an adult – even when she is accomplished, even when she is loved, even when there is nothing left to prove.

This is why willpower and self-awareness do not fix it. You can know exactly where the pattern came from and still find yourself unable to put things down, unable to rest, unable to let the standard slip even when you are running on empty. The pattern is not in the thinking mind. It is in the parts of the inner world that formed before reflection was available.

Why Therapy for High Functioning Women Is Different

Therapy for high functioning women works differently from standard approaches in several important ways.

It does not begin with the assumption that the client needs to be taught anything. High functioning women are typically highly informed. What they need is not information but experience – the direct, felt experience of something shifting in the inner world, not just a new framework for understanding it.

It works with the body as well as the mind. The exhaustion, the vigilance, the inability to rest even when everything is technically fine – these are physiological states, not just psychological ones. Effective therapy for this presentation engages the nervous system directly, not just the narrative.

It takes the protective parts seriously. The high functioning pattern is not a character flaw or a bad habit. It is a set of inner parts doing their jobs – often brilliantly. Therapy that tries to simply override or dismantle these parts will be met with resistance, because the parts have good reasons for what they do. Therapy that meets them with genuine curiosity and respect produces something entirely different.

What Therapy for High Functioning Women Actually Involves

In practice, therapy for high functioning women looks like this: sessions that follow what is alive rather than a prescribed agenda. An approach that works with the parts driving the pattern – the achiever, the perfectionist, the one who cannot stop, the one who does not know who she is without doing. A therapist who can hold both the sophistication and the vulnerability without collapsing one into the other.

The modalities I use – Internal Family Systems and Brainspotting – are particularly well suited to this presentation. IFS works directly with the inner parts, building relationship with them rather than fighting them. Brainspotting processes what those parts are holding in the body at a level beneath language. Together they address the pattern from the inside out.

What women describe after this kind of work is not just reduced anxiety or improved coping. It is a different relationship with themselves – one where rest is genuinely available, where worth is not contingent on output, where the constant internal pressure has genuinely eased rather than just been managed.

Frequently Asked Questions

I function well. Do I really need therapy?

Functioning well and feeling well are not the same thing. Many of the women I work with are highly capable and privately exhausted, anxious, or disconnected. Therapy is not only for people in crisis. It is for anyone who recognises that the way they are living is costing more than it should, and who wants something different.

I have tried therapy before and it did not help much. Why would this be different?

For high functioning women who have tried standard cognitive or talk-based approaches and found them helpful but incomplete, the difference is usually in the level at which the work operates. IFS and Brainspotting work beneath the level that talking reaches – with the body, the nervous system, and the inner parts driving the pattern. Many women find this produces a quality of change they have not experienced before.

Will therapy change who I am or affect my performance?

Therapy does not remove capability or drive – it frees them from compulsion. Most women find that as the internal pressure eases, their actual performance improves because they are operating from clarity rather than anxiety. What changes is not what you do but the relationship you have with doing it.

Can therapy for high functioning women be done online?

Yes, and many high functioning women find the online format particularly well-suited to their needs. It fits around demanding schedules, removes travel time, and allows sessions to take place from a private, comfortable space. All sessions in this practice are conducted online via secure video call.

You Do Not Have to Keep Holding It All Together

If you recognise yourself in this post – if you are capable, accomplished, and privately worn down in a way that nobody around you quite sees – I would welcome a conversation. I work exclusively with women, fully online, and I understand the specific experience of high functioning exhaustion from the inside out.

You can read more about how I work on my approach page. When you are ready to take the next step, get in touch directly to ask a question or enquire about availability. I aim to respond to all enquiries within two business days.

Being capable was never meant to be the whole of you. There is more available than this.

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Trauma Therapist for Women: What to Look for and What to Expect

Trauma Therapist for Women: What to Look for and What to Expect

by | Feb 20, 2026 | Therapy Tools & Methods, Women's Lives, Working with Me

Finding the right trauma therapist for women is not simply a matter of searching a directory and booking the first available appointment. Trauma work requires specific training, a particular quality of therapeutic presence, and an approach that works at the level where trauma is actually stored – which is not always where talk therapy reaches.

For women carrying trauma – whether from a single event, a pattern of difficult experiences, or the more diffuse accumulation of relational wounds – getting this choice right matters significantly. The wrong therapeutic approach can at best be unhelpful and at worst actively retraumatising.

This post covers what specialist trauma training looks like, what to ask when choosing a trauma therapist for women, and what good trauma therapy actually involves in practice.

What Trauma Is – and Why It Requires Specialist Approach

Trauma is not the event itself. It is what happens in the nervous system when an experience exceeds the capacity to process it fully in the moment. The experience becomes held in the body – shaping responses, relationships, and the sense of self long after the circumstances that caused it have passed.

This matters for therapy because the parts of the brain most involved in storing traumatic experience are not primarily language-based. They do not respond to explanation, insight, or cognitive reframing in the way the thinking brain does. Effective trauma therapy needs to work at a different level – with the body, the nervous system, and the parts of the inner world that formed in response to what happened.

It is also worth naming that trauma does not require a dramatic or identifiable event. Many women carry what is sometimes called small-t trauma – the chronic experiences of not being seen, of emotional dismissal, of carrying more than was theirs to carry, of learning early that certain needs or feelings were not acceptable. These experiences are no less real in the body for being harder to name.

What a Trauma Therapist for Women Should Offer

Not every therapist who lists trauma on their profile has the training to work with it safely and effectively. Here is what to look for:

  • Specialist trauma training: Look for advanced training in evidence-informed trauma modalities such as IFS, Brainspotting, EMDR, or somatic experiencing. A base counselling or psychology qualification without advanced trauma-specific training is not sufficient for complex trauma work.
  • A body-informed approach: Trauma is stored somatically – in the nervous system and the body – not just in narrative memory. A trauma therapist who works only with thoughts and stories is working with part of the picture. Effective trauma therapy engages the body as well as the mind.
  • Safety and stabilisation before processing: A skilled trauma therapist does not rush to process traumatic material. They invest in establishing safety, building internal resources, and ensuring the nervous system is sufficiently regulated before deeper work begins. If a therapist moves quickly to trauma processing without adequate preparation, that is a concern.
  • Pacing and titration: Trauma work should be paced to what the nervous system can tolerate. Effective trauma therapy never feels destabilising or overwhelming. If it does, the pace needs to be adjusted.
  • A non-pathologising framework: Trauma responses are intelligent adaptations to difficult circumstances – not symptoms of disorder. A good trauma therapist understands this and communicates it. You are not broken. You are a person whose system learned to protect itself in the way that was available.

Questions to Ask a Trauma Therapist for Women

Before committing to working with a trauma therapist, it is reasonable to ask:

  • What specific trauma training have you completed, and when?
  • How do you approach stabilisation before trauma processing begins?
  • Do you work with the body as well as with narrative and cognition?
  • Do you receive regular clinical supervision?
  • What does a typical session look like in your practice?

A good trauma therapist will welcome these questions. They reflect informed decision-making, not distrust.

Is Online Trauma Therapy Safe and Effective?

Online trauma therapy is both safe and effective when delivered by a trained and experienced practitioner. The key factors for safe trauma work are the same online as in person: establishing sufficient safety and stabilisation before processing begins, maintaining a strong therapeutic relationship, and pacing the work carefully to what the nervous system can tolerate.

For many women, the online format has specific advantages for trauma work. Working from a familiar, private environment can support the sense of safety that trauma therapy requires. There is no travel involved, which reduces the practical load. And for women in regional or rural Australia, online access removes a genuine geographic barrier to specialist trauma support.

Body-based trauma modalities including IFS and Brainspotting both work well in an online format. The depth and safety of the work is not diminished by the video medium.

What Trauma Therapy Actually Involves

Good trauma therapy does not begin with processing. It begins with building safety – establishing a therapeutic relationship in which the client feels genuinely secure, developing internal resources that can support the nervous system through difficult material, and ensuring stabilisation before any deeper work begins.

Processing work – when it begins – is paced carefully. It works with what the system can tolerate, not with what the therapist thinks should be addressed. It follows the body’s activation rather than the narrative logic of what happened. And it does not require the client to relive events in detail or construct a coherent account of their history.

What clients often notice over the course of trauma therapy is a gradual shift in how the body responds – the chronic bracing beginning to ease, the hypervigilance becoming less constant, the emotional reactions feeling less disproportionate. The shift is often quiet rather than dramatic. But it is real, and it holds.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need a formal trauma diagnosis to access trauma therapy?

No. Many women who benefit significantly from trauma-informed therapy do not meet the clinical criteria for PTSD. If you carry the physiological and emotional residue of difficult experiences – regardless of whether those experiences have been formally recognised or named – trauma-informed therapy can be relevant and helpful.

What is the difference between trauma-informed and trauma-specialised therapy?

Trauma-informed practice means the therapist understands trauma and its effects and incorporates that understanding into their work. Trauma-specialised practice means the therapist has advanced training in specific trauma treatment modalities and works with trauma as a primary focus. For women carrying significant or complex trauma, trauma-specialised is preferable to trauma-informed alone.

How long does trauma therapy take?

This depends on the complexity of what is being worked on and the readiness of the nervous system. Single-incident trauma may resolve over a relatively short period. Complex or developmental trauma typically requires longer engagement. There is no fixed timeline – progress is reviewed regularly so that therapy remains purposeful.

Will trauma therapy make things worse before they get better?

Good trauma therapy should not feel destabilising. There may be sessions where difficult material is touched and some tenderness follows – this is normal and expected. But if therapy consistently feels overwhelming or leaves you worse rather than better, the pace needs to be adjusted. A skilled trauma therapist monitors this carefully and treats any sense of overwhelm as important information, not something to push through.

Working with a Trauma Therapist for Women Online

I work exclusively with women as a trauma therapist, fully online, drawing on IFS and Brainspotting to address trauma at the level where it actually lives – in the body and the nervous system, not just in the story. My approach prioritises safety, pacing, and genuine relational attunement throughout.

You can read more about how I work on my approach page. When you are ready, get in touch directly to ask a question or enquire about availability. I aim to respond to all enquiries within two business days.

What you are carrying does not have to stay the way it is. The right support makes a genuine difference.

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Depth Psychotherapy for Women: What It Is and Whether It Is Right for You

Depth Psychotherapy for Women: What It Is and Whether It Is Right for You

by | Feb 18, 2026 | Working with Me, Women's Lives

Depth psychotherapy is a term you may have encountered while researching therapy options, and it is worth understanding what it actually means – because it describes something genuinely different from most of what is available in the mainstream mental health system.

Most therapy available in Australia today is structured, time-limited, and focused on symptom reduction. That is not a criticism – for many people and many presentations, it is exactly what is needed. But for women who have tried that kind of support and found it helpful up to a point, depth psychotherapy offers something different: a way of working that addresses not just the symptoms but the underlying patterns generating them.

This post explains what depth psychotherapy involves, how it differs from standard approaches, and the kinds of women it tends to suit.

What Depth Psychotherapy Actually Is

Depth psychotherapy is a broad term that encompasses therapeutic approaches focused on the deeper layers of psychological experience – the unconscious patterns, relational dynamics, and early experiences that shape how a person thinks, feels, and behaves in the present.

Where standard cognitive approaches work primarily with thoughts and behaviours at a conscious level, depth psychotherapy works with what is beneath. With the parts of the psyche that formed before language, before the capacity for reflection, before the person had any real choice about how they responded to what was happening around them.

The aim of depth psychotherapy is not to teach better coping strategies, though that may happen along the way. The aim is genuine transformation – a lasting shift in how the person relates to themselves, to others, and to the patterns that have been shaping their experience.

Approaches that fall under the depth psychotherapy umbrella include psychodynamic therapy, Jungian analysis, Internal Family Systems, somatic therapies, and integrative approaches that draw from several of these traditions. What they share is a commitment to working at depth rather than at the surface.

How Depth Psychotherapy Differs from Standard Approaches

The differences are significant and worth understanding before you choose a therapeutic direction.

Standard approaches – particularly CBT and its derivatives – are typically structured, protocol-driven, and focused on specific presenting problems. They have strong evidence bases and produce good outcomes for many presentations. They tend to work by identifying unhelpful patterns of thought and behaviour and building more adaptive alternatives.

Depth psychotherapy is less structured, more relational, and more exploratory. Sessions are not organised around exercises or homework. Instead, they follow what is alive in the room – what is showing up in the therapeutic relationship, in the body, in the themes that keep recurring. The therapist is not a neutral technician delivering an intervention. They are a genuine relational presence, and that relationship is itself part of the therapeutic process.

This means depth psychotherapy tends to be slower. It does not produce quick symptom relief in the way a structured protocol might. What it produces is something more lasting – a genuine shift in the underlying architecture of experience rather than a better way of managing the surface.

What Depth Psychotherapy Is Particularly Suited To

Depth psychotherapy tends to produce its most significant results with presentations that have a complex, long-standing, or relational quality. These include:

  • Patterns that persist despite good insight – you understand why you do what you do and still cannot change it
  • Chronic anxiety or emotional exhaustion that does not have a clear external cause
  • Relational patterns that repeat across different relationships
  • Complex or developmental trauma – the kind that accumulated over time rather than from a single event
  • A felt sense that something is missing or not right, even when life looks fine from the outside
  • Previous therapy that helped but did not go far enough
  • Identity questions that feel too large or too strange for ordinary conversation

Who Depth Psychotherapy Is For

Depth psychotherapy is not for everyone, and it is worth being honest about that. It requires a genuine willingness to turn inward, sit with uncertainty, and engage with material that may feel uncomfortable before it feels clarifying. It asks something real of the person who undertakes it.

The women who tend to thrive in depth psychotherapy are those who are psychologically curious – who have been asking questions about themselves and their experience for a long time and are ready to go somewhere with those questions. Who are tired of managing their inner world and ready to actually change it. Who have enough stability in their lives to tolerate the temporary discomfort that genuine depth work sometimes involves.

It is also particularly well suited to women who are high-functioning – who hold together demanding professional and personal lives – but who carry a private sense of exhaustion, disconnection, or something quietly not right that the external achievements do not resolve.

What to Expect in Depth Psychotherapy Sessions

Sessions in depth psychotherapy have a different quality to most therapy people have experienced. There is no agenda in the conventional sense. You do not arrive with a worksheet to complete or a specific technique to practice. You arrive with whatever you are carrying, and the work follows from there.

A skilled depth psychotherapist will track multiple levels simultaneously – what you are saying, what you are not saying, what your body is communicating, what is happening between the two of you in the room. They will bring curiosity rather than prescription to what emerges.

Progress in depth psychotherapy does not always look linear. Some sessions feel profoundly significant. Others feel quieter. The work often continues between sessions – in dreams, in noticing patterns you had not seen before, in the small shifts that accumulate into something larger over time.

Depth Psychotherapy Through an IFS and Brainspotting Lens

The depth psychotherapy offered at this practice draws primarily on Internal Family Systems and Brainspotting. IFS provides a relational framework for understanding the inner world – the parts that protect, the parts that push, the parts that carry pain from earlier experiences. Brainspotting provides the somatic depth – a way of processing what the body is holding that language alone cannot reach.

Together, these approaches address the psychological, relational, and physiological dimensions of the patterns that bring women to therapy. They work at the level where lasting change actually happens – not in the management of symptoms, but in the system that generates them.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does depth psychotherapy take?

There is no fixed timeline. Depth psychotherapy is not a brief intervention – meaningful work tends to unfold over months rather than weeks, and many people find that longer engagement produces the most significant and lasting change. That said, sessions are reviewed regularly so that the work remains purposeful and aligned with what you are hoping to shift.

Is depth psychotherapy evidence-based?

Yes. Psychodynamic and depth-oriented approaches have a substantial evidence base, including meta-analyses showing outcomes comparable to CBT for a range of presentations – and in some studies, superior long-term outcomes. The specific modalities used in this practice – IFS and Brainspotting – also have growing bodies of peer-reviewed research supporting their effectiveness.

Can depth psychotherapy be done online?

Yes. The relational quality that is central to depth psychotherapy can be built and sustained effectively via video. Many clients find that working from their own environment actually supports the inward focus this kind of work requires. All sessions at this practice are conducted online via secure video call.

What is the difference between depth psychotherapy and counselling?

Counselling typically focuses on specific current issues, provides emotional support, and helps with problem-solving and coping. It is often shorter-term and more practically oriented. Depth psychotherapy works at a deeper level – exploring the underlying patterns, relational dynamics, and earlier experiences that shape the present. It is a longer, more exploratory process aimed at lasting inner change rather than better management of the current situation.

Depth Psychotherapy for Women Across Australia

If what you have read here resonates – if you are ready for something that works at a deeper level than you have accessed before – I would welcome a conversation. I work exclusively with women, fully online, offering depth psychotherapy that draws on IFS, Brainspotting, and a genuine commitment to working beneath the surface.

You can read more about how I work on my approach page. When you are ready, get in touch directly to ask a question or enquire about availability. I aim to respond to all enquiries within two business days.

The work that produces lasting change is rarely the work that feels most familiar. Depth psychotherapy asks something different – and offers something different in return.

Further Reading

Online Psychotherapy for Women in Australia: What to Look For and What to Expect

Online Psychotherapy for Women in Australia: What to Look For and What to Expect

by | Feb 16, 2026 | Women's Lives, Working with Me

Online psychotherapy for women in Australia has changed significantly in recent years. What was once a compromise – the option you chose when nothing local was available – has become the preferred format for many women doing serious therapeutic work. Not because it is more convenient, though it is, but because it removes geography as a barrier to accessing the right practitioner.

For women seeking depth-oriented, trauma-informed therapy – the kind that goes beyond symptom management and addresses what is actually driving the anxiety, burnout, or emotional exhaustion – the most important factor is not where the therapist is located. It is whether they have the right clinical depth, the right approach, and the right fit.

This guide covers what to look for when choosing online psychotherapy for women in Australia, what good depth-oriented therapy actually involves, and the questions worth asking before you commit.

Is Online Psychotherapy as Effective as In-Person Therapy?

The research on this question is now quite clear: for most presentations, online psychotherapy produces outcomes comparable to in-person work. A substantial body of evidence supports the effectiveness of online delivery for anxiety, depression, trauma, and relationship difficulties. The therapeutic relationship – which is the strongest predictor of outcomes across all therapy modalities – can be built and sustained effectively via video.

For body-based approaches like Brainspotting and IFS, online delivery works well in practice. The inward focus these approaches require is actually supported by the privacy and comfort of working from home. Many clients report feeling more settled in their own environment than they would in a clinical room.

The main practical requirements are a reliable internet connection, a private space, and a device with a camera and microphone. Beyond that, the work is the same.

What Makes Depth-Oriented Online Therapy Different

Not all online psychotherapy for women in Australia is the same. There is a significant difference between therapy that focuses on symptom management and coping strategies, and therapy that works at the level of the underlying patterns driving those symptoms.

Depth-oriented therapy is slower, more exploratory, and more relationally attuned. It does not follow a fixed protocol or deliver a set of skills to implement between sessions. Instead, it works with what is alive in the room – what is present in the body, what is showing up in the relationship between client and therapist, what patterns keep recurring despite the client’s best efforts to change them.

This kind of work is best suited to women who are ready to go beneath the surface – who have perhaps tried more structured or skills-based approaches and found them helpful but incomplete, and who are looking for something that produces lasting change rather than better management.

What to Look for in an Online Psychotherapist in Australia

Choosing a therapist is one of the most important decisions in the therapeutic process. For women seeking depth-oriented work online, these are the factors worth weighing carefully:

  • Professional registration: In Australia, look for membership with PACFA (Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia) or ACA (Australian Counselling Association) at a clinical level. These bodies have rigorous membership requirements and ethical standards.
  • Specialised training: Beyond a base qualification, depth-oriented therapists typically hold advanced training in specific modalities. For trauma-informed work, look for IFS, Brainspotting, EMDR, or somatic approaches. General counselling qualifications without advanced specialisation are not sufficient for complex trauma or deep psychological work.
  • Ongoing supervision: Ethical practitioners receive regular clinical supervision. This is not just a professional requirement – it is a genuine indicator of commitment to quality practice. It is reasonable to ask a prospective therapist whether they receive regular supervision.
  • Fit and approach: The therapeutic relationship is the most significant predictor of outcomes. The therapist’s qualifications matter, but so does whether their approach, communication style, and values feel right for you.
  • Transparent fees and policies: A professional practice should be clear about session fees, cancellation policies, and what is and is not included. Premium fees are not a red flag – they often reflect genuine specialisation and the cost of maintaining high clinical standards.

Who Benefits Most from Online Psychotherapy for Women in Australia

Depth-oriented online therapy tends to be particularly well suited to women who are high-functioning on the outside but quietly exhausted, anxious, or disconnected on the inside. Women who hold a great deal together – professionally, relationally, domestically – and who have found that the internal cost of that holding is significant.

It is also well suited to women who have done some previous therapy and found it helpful but not quite enough – who have insight into their patterns but have not been able to shift them through understanding alone. And to women who are carrying trauma, whether a specific event or the more diffuse accumulation of difficult relational experiences, and who need an approach that works at the level of the body and nervous system as well as the mind.

Online delivery removes a significant practical barrier for many of these women – the difficulty of finding a sufficiently specialist practitioner locally. In regional and rural Australia in particular, access to advanced trauma-informed therapy has historically been limited. Online therapy changes that.

What to Expect in the First Session

The first session in depth-oriented therapy is not about diving straight into the work. It is about establishing safety, building the beginning of a therapeutic relationship, and developing a shared understanding of what has brought the client to therapy and what she is hoping will change.

A skilled therapist will be curious about your history, your current experience, and what you have tried before – but they will not push you toward material you are not ready to explore. The first session is as much about you assessing whether the therapist feels right as it is about the therapist understanding your situation.

It is worth arriving at the first session having thought about what you most want to change, what has not worked in previous support you have accessed, and any questions you have about the therapist’s approach or how they work. The more honest and specific you can be from the beginning, the more efficiently the work can begin.

Frequently Asked Questions About Online Psychotherapy for Women in Australia

Do I need a GP referral to access online psychotherapy in Australia?

No referral is needed to access private psychotherapy. A GP referral is only required if you are seeking to access Medicare rebates through a Mental Health Treatment Plan, which applies to psychologists registered with Medicare. Private psychotherapists and counsellors operate outside the Medicare system and can be accessed directly. You simply contact the practitioner and arrange an appointment.

Can I claim online psychotherapy through private health insurance in Australia?

This depends on your insurer and level of cover. Many private health funds offer rebates for consultations with registered counsellors and psychotherapists, though the amount varies. It is worth checking directly with your insurer before your first appointment. You pay the full session fee and claim the rebate from your fund directly.

What is the difference between a psychotherapist and a psychologist in Australia?

Psychologists in Australia are registered with the Psychology Board of Australia, can access Medicare rebates under a Mental Health Treatment Plan, and typically work with a structured, evidence-based approach to specific mental health conditions. Psychotherapists are registered with professional bodies such as PACFA or ACA, work outside the Medicare system, and tend to offer longer-term, deeper relational work. Neither is inherently superior – the right choice depends on what you are looking for and what your situation requires.

How long does online psychotherapy take?

There is no fixed timeline. Some women attend for a focused period of a few months to work on a specific pattern or experience. Others engage in longer-term work over a year or more, using therapy as an ongoing support for growth and wellbeing. The right duration depends on what you are bringing, what you are hoping to shift, and how the work unfolds. A good therapist will review progress regularly so that therapy remains purposeful.

Is online therapy safe for trauma?

Yes, when delivered by a trained and experienced trauma-informed practitioner. The key factors for safe trauma work are the same online as in person: establishing sufficient safety and stabilisation before processing begins, pacing the work to what the nervous system can tolerate, and maintaining a strong therapeutic relationship. Online trauma therapy should never feel destabilising or unsafe. If it does, that is important information worth raising directly with your therapist.

Working with Sallyanne Keevers: Online Psychotherapy for Women Across Australia

I offer online psychotherapy exclusively for women, accessible from anywhere in Australia. My practice is self-funded and does not require a referral. Sessions are 90 minutes and draw on Internal Family Systems, Brainspotting, and a deep understanding of the physiological dimensions of mental health.

The women I work with are typically capable, self-aware, and carrying more than they show. They have often tried other forms of support and found them helpful but incomplete. They are ready for something that works at a deeper level.

You can read more about how I work on my approach page. If you are ready to take the next step, get in touch directly to ask a question or enquire about availability. I aim to respond to all enquiries within two business days.

Geography should not determine the quality of care you can access. Wherever you are in Australia, depth-oriented therapy is available to you.

Further Reading

Brainspotting vs EMDR: How to Choose the Right Trauma Therapy

Brainspotting vs EMDR: How to Choose the Right Trauma Therapy

by | Feb 15, 2026 | Therapy Tools & Methods, Women's Lives

Brainspotting vs EMDR is a question I am asked regularly, and it deserves a careful answer. Both are body-based trauma therapies with supporting research. Both work with eye position and the nervous system rather than narrative alone. And both can produce meaningful change for people who have not found that change through talk therapy.

But they are not the same, and for some people the differences matter significantly. This post is an honest comparison – not a sales pitch for one over the other, but a clear account of how they differ and what those differences might mean for you.

I trained in Brainspotting and use it in my practice alongside IFS. I do not offer EMDR. That is a relevant disclosure – and it is also why I want to be genuinely fair in how I describe both approaches here.

What Brainspotting and EMDR Have in Common

Both approaches emerged from the observation that eye position and movement have a relationship with emotional and traumatic activation. EMDR was developed by Francine Shapiro in the late 1980s. Brainspotting was developed by David Grand in 2003, partly from his experience as an EMDR practitioner.

Both work at a level beneath language and conscious thought. Neither requires the client to construct a detailed narrative about what happened. Both are used for trauma, anxiety, and a range of presentations where physiological activation from past experience is shaping current responses.

Both have peer-reviewed research supporting their effectiveness. EMDR has a larger and longer-established evidence base – it has been studied extensively since the 1990s and is recommended by major mental health bodies internationally, including the World Health Organisation. Brainspotting’s evidence base is smaller but growing, with a number of comparative studies showing outcomes that are broadly comparable.

How Brainspotting vs EMDR Differ in Practice

The most significant difference is in structure and directiveness. EMDR follows a defined eight-phase protocol. Sessions have a clear structure, specific phases for assessment, preparation, desensitisation, and installation, and the therapist plays an active role in guiding the client through each stage. The bilateral stimulation – typically eye movements following a moving object, or tapping – is applied systematically.

Brainspotting is less structured. Once the brainspot is located, the therapist largely steps back and allows the client’s system to process in its own way, at its own pace, without a protocol directing what should happen next. The therapist holds dual attunement – tracking both the client’s external cues and their own internal experience – but does not direct the content of the processing.

A second difference is in the nature of the eye position work. EMDR uses bilateral stimulation – the eyes move back and forth following a stimulus. Brainspotting uses a fixed position – the eyes hold a single spot while processing occurs. The experience of the two is quite different, and clients who have tried both often describe Brainspotting as feeling more organic and less effortful.

A third difference is in what the approaches ask of the client cognitively. EMDR’s protocol involves active cognitive work alongside the bilateral stimulation – identifying negative cognitions, rating distress, installing positive beliefs. Brainspotting requires less cognitive engagement. The client stays with body sensation and internal experience without needing to simultaneously manage a structured assessment process.

The Evidence Base: An Honest Comparison

EMDR has a substantially larger evidence base than Brainspotting. It has been the subject of hundreds of randomised controlled trials and is endorsed by the World Health Organisation, the American Psychological Association, and the Australian Psychological Society among others. For PTSD in particular, it is considered a gold-standard treatment.

Brainspotting’s evidence base is smaller and more recent. The most rigorous independent comparison study to date – D’Antoni and colleagues (2022) – found Brainspotting and EMDR produced comparable outcomes for distressing memories. Hildebrand, Grand and Stemmler (2017) found both effective for PTSD, with EMDR showing slightly larger effect sizes in that study. The research is promising but not yet at the volume or methodological strength of the EMDR literature.

What this means practically is that EMDR has stronger institutional backing and a more established evidence base. Brainspotting has good and growing evidence and strong clinical outcomes, but a smaller research foundation. For someone who values evidence hierarchy, that distinction matters.

Who Tends to Suit Each Approach

Neither approach is universally better. The right fit depends on the person, the presentation, and sometimes simply on what feels right when they experience it. That said, some patterns emerge in clinical practice.

EMDR may be a stronger fit for women who:

  • Prefer a clear, structured process they can understand and follow
  • Want an approach with the largest possible evidence base
  • Have a clearly defined traumatic incident they want to target
  • Have found structured protocols helpful in other areas of their life

Brainspotting may be a stronger fit for women who:

  • Found EMDR effective but exhausting, or struggled with its structured format
  • Are carrying complex or relational trauma without a clearly defined single incident
  • Prefer an approach that follows their system’s natural pace rather than a protocol
  • Want trauma work integrated with an IFS framework for understanding their inner parts
  • Carry a body-based quality to their patterns that has not shifted through cognitive or talk-based approaches

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I switch from EMDR to Brainspotting if EMDR is not working for me?

Yes. The two approaches are compatible and prior EMDR work is not wasted if you move to Brainspotting. Some women find that EMDR takes them a significant way and Brainspotting reaches what remains. Others find the different quality of the process suits them better from the start. It is worth having an honest conversation with any new therapist about what has and has not worked before.

Is one approach faster than the other?

Not in any consistent way. Both can produce rapid shifts for some presentations and require longer-term work for others. The pace depends far more on the complexity of what is being worked on and the readiness of the nervous system than on the modality itself.

Why do you use Brainspotting rather than EMDR in your practice?

Brainspotting integrates particularly well with IFS, which is the primary framework I work within. The two approaches complement each other naturally – IFS providing the relational and psychological scaffolding, Brainspotting providing the somatic processing depth. I also find that the less directive quality of Brainspotting suits the women I work with, many of whom have spent years being told what to do and think and feel. Brainspotting trusts the system to know what it needs.

Should I try both before deciding?

If you have access to skilled practitioners in both, experiencing both is not a bad idea. Many people find that one approach has a quality that immediately feels more right than the other. If you are starting fresh without prior experience of either, the most important factor is usually the quality of the therapeutic relationship – the approach matters less than the skill and attunement of the person delivering it.

If Brainspotting Sounds Right for You

If what you have read here points you toward Brainspotting, I would welcome a conversation. I work exclusively with women, fully online, using Brainspotting alongside IFS to address trauma, anxiety, and emotional patterns at the level where they actually live.

You can read more about how I work on my approach page. When you are ready, get in touch directly to ask a question or enquire about availability. I aim to respond to all enquiries within two business days.

The right therapy is the one that reaches what needs to be reached. I hope this helps you find it – whether that is with me or with someone else.

Further Reading

Brainspotting for Trauma: Why Some Healing Happens Below Language

Brainspotting for Trauma: Why Some Healing Happens Below Language

by | Feb 14, 2026 | Therapy Tools & Methods, Women's Lives

Brainspotting for trauma is built on a simple but significant observation: some experiences are stored in the body at a level that language cannot reach. Not because the person cannot find the words, but because the experience itself was processed – or not processed – before words were available. In the body. In the nervous system. In parts of the brain that sit beneath conscious thought.

For women carrying trauma – whether a single identifiable event or the more diffuse accumulation of relational and developmental experiences – this means that talking about what happened, however carefully and skillfully, often reaches only part of what needs to be reached.

Brainspotting for trauma offers a way in that does not depend on narrative. It works with the body’s own capacity to process and heal, at the level where the trauma is actually held.

What Trauma Actually Is – and Is Not

Trauma is not the event itself. It is what happens in the nervous system when an experience exceeds the capacity to process it fully in the moment. The experience becomes frozen – held in the body as unresolved activation, shaping the person’s responses long after the event has passed.

This is why trauma responses often feel disproportionate or confusing. The body is not reacting to what is happening now – it is responding to a pattern laid down then, in circumstances that no longer exist. The nervous system has not received the message that things are different.

It is also worth naming that trauma does not require a dramatic single incident. Many women carry the effects of what might be called small-t trauma – the chronic experiences of not being seen, of having emotions dismissed, of learning early that certain feelings were not acceptable, of carrying responsibility that was not theirs to carry. These experiences are no less real in the body for being harder to name.

Why Talking About Trauma Is Not Always Enough

Talk therapy has real value in trauma work – building safety, making meaning, reducing isolation, developing the language to name what happened. These are not small things. But for many people, talking about the trauma does not fully discharge the physiological activation it created. The story can be told fluently, the meaning can be understood, and the body is still braced.

This is not a failure of therapy or of the person. It reflects the nature of how trauma is stored. The parts of the brain most involved in threat response and emotional memory are not primarily language-based. They respond to different kinds of intervention – ones that work at the level of the body and the nervous system rather than the narrative.

Brainspotting for trauma works at exactly this level. It does not ask the person to recount what happened, construct a coherent account, or find the right words. It works with the physiological activation directly, allowing the body to process what it has been holding.

How Brainspotting for Trauma Works in Practice

A Brainspotting session focused on trauma begins with establishing safety and stabilisation. Before any processing work begins, the therapist ensures the client has sufficient internal resources and that the nervous system is regulated enough to approach the material without being overwhelmed.

From there, the client is asked to bring the trauma material to mind – not necessarily in detail, but enough to notice where the activation shows up in the body. That body sensation becomes the anchor for finding the brainspot: the eye position that most activates the stored material.

Once the brainspot is located, the client holds that gaze position while staying with whatever arises internally. The therapist holds the relational container throughout – present, attuned, tracking external cues while the client follows the internal process. There is no scripted protocol for what should happen next. The processing unfolds in its own way, at its own pace.

The theoretical framework proposes that this process accesses deeper brain structures involved in the storage of traumatic memory and threat response. This mechanism is a working hypothesis rather than established neuroscience – but the clinical outcomes for trauma presentations are consistently encouraging, and the approach has a growing body of peer-reviewed research behind it.

Brainspotting for Complex and Relational Trauma

Complex trauma – the kind that develops over time in relational contexts rather than from a single event – presents particular challenges for treatment. It is often less clearly bounded, harder to name, and more deeply woven into a person’s sense of self and their way of relating to others.

Brainspotting is well-suited to this presentation because it does not require the trauma to be clearly defined or narrated. The body holds what it holds, regardless of whether the person can articulate it in words. The work follows the physiological activation rather than the story.

For women who carry complex or developmental trauma, the pace of Brainspotting work tends to be slower and more titrated – building safety, working with stabilisation, and approaching deeper material gradually as the system becomes more capable of tolerating and processing it.

Brainspotting and IFS: Working with Trauma at Two Levels

In practice, Brainspotting for trauma is most powerful when used alongside Internal Family Systems therapy. IFS provides the relational and psychological framework – helping the person understand and build relationship with the parts that formed in response to the trauma, what they are protecting, and what they need. This work creates the conditions for deeper processing to be safe.

Brainspotting then processes what those parts are holding in the body – the stored activation, the frozen responses, the physiological residue of experiences the system never had the chance to fully digest. Where IFS works with the meaning and relationship of trauma, Brainspotting works with the body’s held experience of it.

For many women, this combination produces a depth of change that reflects the true complexity of what trauma is – not just an event or a memory, but an experience held across the mind, the emotions, and the body simultaneously.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need a PTSD diagnosis to access Brainspotting for trauma?

No. Many women who benefit from Brainspotting for trauma do not meet the clinical criteria for PTSD. The approach works with any presentation where physiological activation from past experience is shaping current responses – regardless of whether it meets a diagnostic threshold.

Is it safe to do Brainspotting for trauma online?

Yes, with appropriate care and clinical skill. Online trauma work requires attention to stabilisation, pacing, and the establishment of sufficient safety before processing begins – all of which are central to how I work. The online format does not diminish the depth or safety of the work in my clinical experience.

What if I cannot remember my trauma clearly?

Brainspotting does not require clear memory or a detailed narrative. The work follows the body’s activation rather than the story. Many clients find this a significant relief – they do not have to reconstruct or recount something they may only have fragmented access to. The body holds what it holds, and that is what the work engages with.

How is Brainspotting different from EMDR for trauma?

Both approaches work with trauma at a body-brain level and both have supporting research. EMDR uses bilateral stimulation and a structured protocol. Brainspotting uses a fixed eye position and is less directive, allowing the client’s system to process in its own way without a scripted procedure. Some clients find Brainspotting less effortful and easier to settle into, particularly those who found EMDR’s structure difficult to work within.

Your Body Has Been Holding This Long Enough

If you are carrying something that talking has not been able to fully reach, I would welcome a conversation. I work exclusively with women, fully online, using Brainspotting alongside IFS to work with trauma at the level where it actually lives – in the body, in the nervous system, below language.

You can read more about how I work on my approach page. When you are ready, get in touch directly to ask a question or enquire about availability. I aim to respond to all enquiries within two business days.

Healing does not always begin with words. Sometimes it begins with the body finally being allowed to finish what it started.

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